Chatting with a female friend older than 25, virgin for private and religious matters I found out she didn’t know anything about female masturbation, she thought that women in order to masturbate need a dildo. This girl is a highly educated person anyway her knowledge on the topic is virtually nil.
She is a Muslim so I asked what does the Islam say about masturbation and she also ignored it, she has never thought about it before. So I research on the Internet to find out more about it, the only thing I could found was a guy speaking about it on a You Tube video. He explains how it is dangerous for females to Masturbate because of the fragility of the hymen and they just need to wait patiently for sexual pleasure until they get married (if they are lucky enough); this just shows that this topic is surrounded by ignorance; not only on the highly religious societies, but also in the western world.
Lately we can watch on movies and TV series the mass media version about female masturbation like in Sex and the City, but it always includes a dildo. Imagine that women where only able to masturbate themselves only after the XVIII century, when the first dildo was invented because of all the Female Hysteria cases; information could had prevented a lot of work to Freud and his followers.
The word dildo, the word in English has a unknown origin, but the etymology could be from the Italian diletto, little darling or delight or from the old English dyderian , meaning to cheat or deceive; in French godemiché etimology comes from miche meaning I enjoy and finally Spanish the word to name a dildo, vibrador, meaning vibrator; anyway in the romance languages we can also find the word consolador or consolateur, giving the impression that something doesn’t go well so the women need to be comforted or consoled, backing the common taboo about women, sex and female masturbation. There is common to hear that a woman is angry because “she is not getting lay enough” and this expression is almost impossible to be heard about a man. And if female masturbation is talk about is because the girl is single, this doesn’t happen to guys who it is seem as natural to masturbate. This impression of loneliness and neediness or even worse perversion is deeply rooted in our society.
Finally, Female Masturbation slang is almost inexistent, at least women aren’t the one using it, because there are not women chatting on this subject but the ones shown on TV; on the other hand there are thousands and thousands of terms to call the male masturbation: manual job, monkey slapping, yanking, wank off, jerk off, jacking off… (endless list)
So ladies don’t be afraid of your sexuality and to talk about it, give yourselves some pleasure, learn what you like and you don’t like. It is very useful to know yourselves because sometimes guys do not know what they are doing in bed. You will be happier and have a better sex life.